You may not know this, but Garrett was my first boyfriend…ever.
Shocking right? I bet you hear that and think that we started dating in high school and had a young love thing going for us. But we actually began dating shortly after my 25th birthday, and I can confidently say that I knew he was it for me within the first month. I’d love to say the first date, but I think that was just me being hopeful!
You see, I am not a picky person but I was picky about him. I knew that if I was going to invest my time and my heart into a relationship that it better be the real thing. I had goals and hopes and dreams and things that I wasn’t ready to take my focus away from.
On the other end of that spectrum, I just hadn’t found the right guy! Oh believe-you-me, I had looked! I *attempted* to meet guys at events, bars, gatherings with friends, I even went on Match.com (ugh!) – but I knew within minutes of talking with someone that it wasn’t what I was looking for. I was waiting for that instant feeling of comfort and friendship and attraction all in one.
Above all that, I was waiting for a man who didn’t just like me too, but knew in his heart that he couldn’t let me get away. You better believe I grew up with Aladdin, Prince Phillip, Prince Eric, Hercules and all those amazing Disney men who chased after their Disney women! But I also had some great examples of men in my life well before Garrett came along, so I knew what to look for.
In college, my sister met Jeremy, a guy she swore was “just a friend.” Sure, he was cute and cool and nice, but Rachel decided to just keep her focus on school and other priorities in her life. But Jeremy knew better! He knew Rachel was someone special that he couldn’t let walk away, and he spent his time showing her that she should give him a chance. Fast forward to today, and they’re about to celebrate their 5th wedding anniversary!!
Witnessing acts of love and persistence like Jeremy’s showed me what I wanted for myself, and I promised myself I would wait till I found a man like that.
I wanted to share this today because, girl, I know that you are out there longing for the love and partnership that you see so many of us enjoying. You’re thinking to yourself “will that ever be me?”, and I know because even though I was picky and stubborn, I still had those same doubts. But I’m here to tell you YES, it will. It might take a while, and it might call for you to be patient and picky. You may have to wait and sift through a lot of guys that make you think the dating game is the worst. Trust me – I’m with you on that one!
But I’m here to tell you that you will find it someday. And when you do, you’ll be so thankful that you waited to find the right person. A man who loves you, supports you and chases after you every day.
Until then, stay focused on what you love! Keep working hard to be the person that you want to be. Set goals and dreams and go after them! You don’t have to be in a relationship to do exciting things in your life. In fact, you have so much freedom and flexibility to do whatever you want to do – sky’s the limit. And while that sounds SUPER cheesy as I write it, it’s undeniably true!
So if you’ve stuck with me this long, know that your story is beautiful right where you are, and I’m cheering you on to do great things and meet the right person!
With so much love,